First I want to address what fear is and what it is not. In the recent movie, After Earth, Will Smith made a statement which rings very true in reality, especially in reality with horses.
"Fear is not real. The only place that fear can exist is in our thoughts of the future. It is a product of our imagination, causing us to fear things that do not at present and may not ever exist. That is near insanity. Do not misunderstand me danger is very real but fear is a choice."

As horsemen and horsewomen we are confronted with danger every day. The simple act of being near a horse is dangerous. The key to being able to confidently work with and affect a change in our horses is the ability to make a better choice for ourselves, to make the choice to not be afraid.

So many times we get caught up being afraid of 'what ifs', or as will smith put it, letting our "imagination cause us to fear things that don't exist and may never exist". The problem with choosing to be afraid is that it has zero positive results.

When you choose to be afraid of what your horse 'might' do, 'might' not do or when you choose to be afraid of what 'could' happen when your horse is doing something dangerous you are in simple fact choosing insanity. You are choosing to fear something that is not even real because it has not happened and may never happen.

Now, I understand that it is much easier to say, "Just choose not to be afraid" then it is to actually put that choice into practice. I have had my fair share of bad choices concerning fear. Yet, no matter how hard it is to choose courage over fear we owe it to ourselves and to our horses to make that choice.

When we are afraid our horses feed off of that fear. Some horses will become more nervous and fearful just because we are fearful, thereby creating a vicious circle where fear begets more fear.
 Other horses will take our fear as a sign that we are unfit leaders and so, will become more disrespectful and more difficult thus creating more fear in us, again, creating a vicious circle where fear begets unruly behavior which begets more fear.

The flip coin to fear is choosing to be courageous. When we are courageous our horses feed off our courage.
A fearful nervous horse will draw confidence and courage from your confidence and courage thereby becoming safer and less prone to spooking. A usually dominant or disrespectful horse will notice your courage and respect you as at least an equal making your horse less likely to try pushing you around thereby making your horse safer.

How can we reasonably expect our horse to be brave and confident, some people call it bomb proof, when we are choosing to be afraid? How can we reasonably expect our horse to respect us when we are choosing to be afraid?
How can you reasonably continue to be afraid knowing that your fear is a
choice, a choice that will only harm you and your horse, a choice that is in fact being afraid of something that doesn't exist?